For those of you who know me well/for a long time, you know that I have always had an inner bitch. It often remained buried DEEP inside, but it was there. Well in the past year, that has REALLY changed! My inner bitch has been set free and it has grown and flourished, transforming this usually opinionated yet quiet woman into a full on, in your face, not going to take your crap, B.I.T.C.H. A lot of people have been surprised by this change, so I thought I should explain my 'transformation'...
So, here is is, the TOP 5 REASONS I HAVE BECOME A BITCHY MOMMY:
#5 -People not approving of my marriage.
My husband and I got married after just over a year of dating. We decided to get married after only 3 months of dating. I was also 14 weeks pregnant when we got married. Some people say we got married too fast. Other people think that we got married because I was pregnant. All I can say is when you are in love and you know it, nothing is too fast and I found out I was pregnant almost 2 weeks after we sent out of invites. Plus, didn't your mother's teach you that "if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all"? Keep your comments to yourself.
#4 - Everyone thinking they know how to raise my daughter better than I do.
While I will say that people who are mothers do have some great experience, I would love it if people would acknowledge that things change over time. More research is conducted, more technology is created. In just the 22 (almost 23) years since I was a baby, so much has changed. How to put your baby to sleep, when to start feeding solids, what foods your baby should and shouldn't eat, carseats and carseat locations in the vehicle and even certain toys that were considered 'learning tools' are now banned/against the law. What was normal even 10+ years ago may not be today, so advice from when you had kids may be out of date. Also, a mother's instinct is the best mothering tool there is. Chances are that will lead me in the right direction. And again, keep your comments (advice) to yourself. If I want to hear what you have to say, I will ask.
#3 - I'm sleep deprived.
I have not had a decent night's sleep since I was 4 months pregnant. So for 14 months, I have been sleep deprived. Even when Charlotte does sleep through the night, I still wake up to make sure she is ok. I think anyone would be bitchy after over a year of getting awful sleep.
#2 - An awful first Mother's Day.
For my first Mother's Day, my husband spent 5 hours with his mother and sister and my daughter had one of the longest she has ever had (6 hours!). So I spent most of the day by myself. Then when my husband did come home, his sister wanted to see our daughter, so my sister-in-law and brother-in-law came over for a BBQ. It was nearly 8:30pm before I got any time with my new family unit. This has been the start of my family not being allowed to spend special events alone together. Maybe I am selfish, but I want some good family memories of just my little unit. My family comes first, then everyone else comes second.
#1 - Not being the first person to hold my daughter.
Not only did we have 4 visitors in the hospital while I was in labour (2 friends and my husbands parents) when I said I wanted NO ONE there, because I wanted it to be a special moment for our new family, but I didn't get to hold her first. Now it isn't really anyone's fault as there where some minor complications with my daughter's birth. There was some meconium present before my daughter came out (essentially she pooped before she came out), so we were informed that they would not be able to lay her on my chest right after birth, my husband would not get to cut the umbilical cord, and that I special team would be present to check her directly after birth. While she was being checked, I was going through after birth, and complication #2 occurred. My placenta wouldn't come out in one piece. I had to be rushed to the OR so that they could manually remove it. SO it was about an hour until I got to get a good look and hold my daughter. In that hour my husband and mother-in-law got to hold her before I did. Now my husband holding her is whatever to me. I mean, I was in the OR, who else was going to hold her, but my mother-in-law holding her before I did really hurt. Not only had I expressed countless times that I wanted this to be an event for my husband and I and that went in one ear and out the other, but someone who wasn't her parent got to hold my daughter before me. I feel robbed of that special moment. I know that I get her all the time now, but I really feel as though that moment was ruined, and that my new family unit was robbed of making a special memory and having time to bond.
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